Update: bad news at 13w ultrasound

Tw: pregnancy loss

Hi everyone, I had a lot of requests for updates on my last post so here goes. After being advised to terminate by our doctor due to what she thought was likely hypoplastic left heart syndrome, we ultimately decided to wait a few weeks to get a second opinion when our baby was a bit bigger, and they could hopefully see her heart more clearly. We also wanted to wait for NIPT results. We received them about a week after our initial scan and found out she was a girl with no chromosomal abnormalities. We breathed a sigh of relief and clung to hope that the Doc, who told us this was almost certainly due to a chromosomal issue, was wrong about her heart as well.

The wait for today’s scan was torture, but I tried to just enjoy every moment I could carrying her and telling her how loved she is. Sadly, the sonographer was not able to find a heartbeat. She stopped growing at 13 weeks, so she likely passed very shortly after our last appointment. We are crushed and mourning our daughter, but find peace in knowing we will try again.

I’m so grateful to this sub and all those who shared their insights, support, and advice. It was instrumental in helping me through these last few weeks. All of your struggles in pregnancy are valid, but please remember how much of a gift it is to have a healthy baby.