Are you happy with your condition?

When I first posted here, I thought you suffer as I do, and I posted so we can suffer together. But then I discovered to my surprise that you people here enjoy having a waifu. Explain that to me. How can you be happy?

Isn't it painful to be in love with someone who does not exist, who cannot love you back, whom you will never get to confess your feelings to?

I think it's similar to being a widower. In both cases you're in love with a person who doesn't exist, except in the first case she never existed whereas in the second case she doesn't exist anymore. Either way the source of your pain is the bitter knowledge that you'll never unite (or reunite) with the woman you love.

Does it sound selfish that I compare my pain of having a waifu to the pain of someone who's lost his wife? To me, it hurts equally bad.